Forget the Fear & Get On With Life
April 30th, 2009 Posted in advice, personal, writing
by _gee_
In the past I have been a fearful person. I worried endlessly about what might happen and more often than not it prevented me from finding out for sure.
I am now slowly transitioning to someone who just trusts things will work out and goes for it, rather than being fearful and procrastinating. Sometimes I’m more successful at it than others, some progress is better than none.
Today I’m going to share what I have learnt along the way.
Just Trust Life
I have noticed that successful people I have met, read about and seen speak seem to share an unwavering trust in life.
Worry they may have about what might happen in or about a particular situation is replaced by work making it happen.
They don’t really see problems, instead only opportunities. It simply boils down to believing that things would work out.
It’s not magic, great opportunities don’t quite fall into their hands, but they seem to believe that if they continued to work hard and do the right thing then surely good things will follow.
There is no ego or a sense of delusion involved – but they feel that ultimately they will not take the wrong decision and in the rare case it does happen they can steer things back on course.
Forget the Rest
The opposite end of the spectrum is self doubt and fear – incredibly debilitating issues. Many of us are guilty of over thinking and the paralysis of analysis; I’m defiantly one of them.
Worrying about something will not help, it serves no purpose. Feeling sorry for your self is no good either.
Likewise beating yourself up about a bad situation is of no use, instead see it as a blessing in disguise and look for the opportunities it presents and the lessons you can learn from it.
My Case Study
Just days ago I missed out on what would have been a major life changing opportunity. After realising I missed out I deliberately asked ‘is this going to defeat or motivate me?’ I chose the latter.
That opportunity wasn’t meant to be – but I trust things will work out. I know if I keep working the next opportunity will be just around the corner. The chance of a lifetime comes around surprisingly often.
I learnt a few great lessons from the experience and now I’m back to work writing, ready for the next chance.
Trust You’re Instincts
One of the lessons I learnt this time was to trust your instincts. It was a writing competition where everyone was writing on the same topic using the same basic framework.
My gut told me to push the envelope and make my writing bold and dramatic to stand out from all of the other entries that would play it smart and safe, looking the same as each other.
But then I started over analysing things. I read the rules and suggestions far too many times and eventually concluded that I should play it safe.
Having seen the finalists selected it’s painfully obvious my initial instincts were correct, the judges picked the more original writing over the technically sound entries. If I had to read through a pile of stories all telling exactlly the same thing of course I would be drawn to to the ones that varied from the script slightlighy and hooked my imagination, even if the writing was not gramaticlly perfect.
Your first reaction is usually the correct one. Over thinking clouds and confuses your judgment.
by notsogoodphotography
Forget the Fear
Trust your ability to handle repercussions in the event they happen rather than worry about what might happen.
You need to realise that fear will never go away completely. There will always be some apprehension. The way past it is to conquer your fears, confront and move past them.
Once you do it you will feel better, building moment and confidence to tackle things that you fear even more.
By confronting your fears and pushing past them the fear is less frightening than feeling of hopelessness.
Trust Life!
“Trust yourself. Create the kind of self that you will be happy to live with all your life. Make the most of yourself by fanning the tiny, inner sparks of possibility into flames of achievement.” – Foster C. McClellan
